Beyond dementia

so I saw my primary doctor last week. I told her what my specialist said…that I have mild dementia. I went on to tell her I went to an attorney and had legal paperwork drawn up. Such as healthcare power of attorney, durable power of attorney and living will. Then I went on to explain that I will not be put in a long term facility when I am incompetent. That I hired a ” death Doula” who will facilitate my passing using VSED. VSED is voluntary stopping eating and drinking. Basically through not eating and drinking you die of dehydration. So I asked my doctor if she would sign a DNR order for me. She agreed. So I’m almost done with all the legal stuff. I’m not going to start vsed soon..I’m still competent and can manage my own affairs. I’m just setting everything up to where when it’s time, I won’t have to jump major hoops. I feel a sense of freedom now. I don’t have to sit here worried about my future with dementia and being placed in a horrible, being dependent on others for all my needs. My background is that for 12 years I took care of clients with dementia, mostly in there homes. At the same time I visited my dad in a nursing home…he had dementia and he was very disabled from it until he passed. Then I visited my mom for 3 years, almost every day, in a memory care. She died not as demented as my dad, but bad enough. It wasn’t watching my parents go through it that was the worse, it was actually watching their peers deteriorate. When a person is in good physical health but have dementia they end up totally dependent, for EVERYTHING, with contractures and unable to talk. It is utter hell. Not for me.

Next I will write more about vsed. Take care